Ever been to a wedding and felt like some of the events were just awkward, or seemed outdated? It’s okay if you love the tradition of speeches, bridesmaids, etc. But if you find yourself questioning whether they have a place in your wedding, feel free to read through this list of traditions that might be a little outdated.
1. Bachelor/Bachelorette Party
The ‘bach’ party in its essence is a celebration to wave goodbye to single life. But the unusual thing about this concept is that chances are you're not single. Being engaged does not qualify as single in most people's opinions. So the Bach party can become a point of contention for most couples. If you feel like it's highly unnecessary, then skip it! Or have a joint party together as a couple, to celebrate your upcoming wedding, not to have one last single day.
2. The Wedding Party
If you feel like bridesmaids and groomsmen are going to be extra cost and drama, that’s okay. The tradition of having a bunch of your best friends standing behind you is a little old school. Ultimately, it's about you and your partner. There is no need for the hassle of extra dress fittings, tux tailoring, and bridal party gifts. It’s totally okay for friends to come to your wedding and support you even if they're not by your side.
3. The White Dress
Short and sweet, wear whatever makes you feel comfortable, sexy, and beautiful! If the symbol of what a white dress stands for is important to you, then go for it! But don't feel it's necessary to wear it just because most brides do.
4. The Veil
I just spend 4 hours getting my hair and makeup done, and you want me to put a piece of fabric over my face that's going to stab my scalp all night long? No thanks, I'll pass.
5. Father Walking You Down the Aisle
It doesn't have to be strictly your father walking you down the aisle. It could be anyone you feel has truly been there for you and supported you throughout your life. So it can be your father, your best friend, your mother, your aunt, or you can go it alone like the independent queen you are. Now, it is important to note that if this is extremely important to your father, make sure you take his feelings into consideration.
6. Here Comes the Bride
Speaking of walking down the aisle, the ‘here comes the bride’ song originally named the “bridal chorus” was written in 1850. And for some brides, it feels like it needs to stay in 1850. Switch it up, have the acoustic version of your favorite song playing as you strut your stuff. There are no rules, it is your wedding, play whatever puts a smile on your face.
7. The Dollar Dance
Another short and sweet one. The dollar dance is bizarre and a little degrading. The last thing I want is my drunk uncle throwing 10 bucks in a jar so he can swing me around till I'm nauseous. Have your guests save their cash, and save you from the awkward experience.
8. Wedding Favors
Don't stress yourself out trying to order 100 mini scented candles and mini bags of kettle corn, inscribed with you and your hubby's initials. Chances are, half your guests will forget to grab a wedding favor on their way out, and you spent that money for nothing. No guest will complain about not having a wedding favor, they are going to be having too much fun breaking it down on the dance floor.
9. Speeches
It is not a requirement that someone gives a speech at your wedding. If you don't want to risk your maid of honor saying something inappropriate, or your father saying something embarrassing, don't have them make a speech. There is nothing that says they have to and make sure you make it known to your wedding party that there are to be no ‘impromptu’ speeches either. The last thing you want is your partner's hammered best man to go on a rant about the “meaning of life.”
Remember this is just the way I see it, it's your wedding, not mine. So if you want to wear white, go for it! If you want that beautiful live flower bouquet, do it! It's all about what makes you comfortable and happy!
