Writing your own vows can be a really daunting task. It should feel easy because you know your feelings and intentions with your significant other. But putting those thoughts and emotions into words can be a little intimidating. Here's a quick guide on some things you should consider writing in, and leaving out of your vows.
1. Personal But Not… Too Personal
Your vows should reflect your feelings for your partner and the love you have. A lot of times sharing a funny story, or cute memory, can help illustrate your relationship/love to your guests. But when does sharing something personal become, too personal? It’s cute to share the story about how he helped you clean your room when you were sick, but maybe leave out the part where you kept pooping your pants. Talking about how the two of you “truly connected when you first met” is amazing, but don't talk about how that ‘connection’ was under the sheets.
2. Ex’s Are Off-Limits
I know you think (and want everyone to know) that your partner is way better than anyone you have dated before. But that should be obvious because you are MARRYING them. Do not put any mention of an ex in your wedding vows, ever. The end.
3. Talk About Why You Are Marrying Them
This is the time to bring on the compliments! Get sentimental and all mushy gushy! Tell your partner why you are marrying them. Tell them about all the amazing qualities they possess and why you admire them. This is the time to let them know how special and important they are to you. Make them feel as wonderful as they make you feel.
4. They Are Not Called VOWS For Nothing
People get so lost in the storytelling and the walk down memory lane that they forget they are supposed to make vows. “I vow to be loyal, caring, etc.” Don’t forget the point is to make promises to your partner that you will honor through the sanctity of marriage. And this is where you can also be a little silly and creative! Things like “I vow to remember to put the toilet seat down” or “ I vow to make your favorite meal once a month” mixed in with the important stuff, can be sweet and get a chuckle from your guests.
5. This Ain't a Comedy Central Special
I know you think you are basically the next Chris Rock, but save that for your stand-up routine in the bathroom mirror. You might think telling jokes could lighten the mood, but it could lead to a lot of cringe moments. If a joke doesn't land or is too harsh, it could get awkward or even upset your partner. And telling too many jokes can make it seem like you aren't taking your vows (or marriage) seriously. A lighthearted quip here and there won't hurt, but joke after joke can seem attention-seeking and off-putting.
All in all, just write from the heart. Think about your partner's incredible qualities, keep it PG, and remember what these vows mean to the two of you. Follow those guidelines and I'm sure you will write something truly heartfelt. and memorable.
